the new year.
Resolutions, Goals & One Word
I'm terrible at all of them.
So terrible that I don't even try.
Maybe it's a lack of commitment. Failure to plan. Or an inability to boil my life down to one word.
I don't know for sure.
What I do know is that I admire the ability in others. Decisiveness. Direction. Dedication.
I've read a lot about goal setting. What I haven't read a lot about is how to set goals when you aren't clear on your objectives.
How the heck does that work?
In my pursuit to unravel this problem I've been spending some time thinking about the possible obstacles.
At first glance I thought the problem was indecisiveness which is a real thing for me. Maybe a fear of change which isn't so much a thing for me. Or maybe even a complete lack of vision which is probably a thing.
But after a bit more scrutiny I believe mine is an inability to dream. I don't mean the dreaming you do while you are asleep. Or the delusional dreaming while on hallucinogens. Or even the daydreaming version.
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I mean the "hey, wouldn't it be great if I achieved this or created that" type of dream.
Can't do it.
For myself anyway.
I can dream for you all day long. In fact I can dream real big for you. Plus, if you want I can tell you all about your strengths, unique qualities and attributes.
It's just something I can't do for myself. At least right now.
So as an act of kindness I'm going to stop pressuring myself to conform to a goal setting agenda that I can't accomplish.
Instead I'm going to choose to keep pressing on. Learning. Growing.
If you are like me and have trouble dreaming. Goal-setting. Making resolutions. Discovering your special word.
I hear ya.
But that's no reason to allow our default to be apathy. Lack of motivation. Fear of change.
With or without goals I hope you'll join me as we lean in to 2018 with purpose. Intention. Gratitude.
And most of all Courage.
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.”